> ## Documentation Index > Fetch the complete documentation index at: https://docs.getrivet.ca/llms.txt > Use this file to discover all available pages before exploring further. # Relationship presets — 2 worksheets > Attachment styles grid and the drama triangle (Karpman). Two worksheets for relational work — one mapping the client's attachment patterns, one mapping the relational role dynamics they get pulled into. ## Attachment styles A 2×2 grid laid out on two axes — anxiety on the vertical, avoidance on the horizontal: * **Top-left, green: SECURE** — low anxiety + low avoidance, trusts and connects * **Top-right, blue: AVOIDANT (Dismissive)** — low anxiety + high avoidance, self-reliant and distant * **Bottom-left, amber: ANXIOUS (Preoccupied)** — high anxiety + low avoidance, craves closeness, fears loss * **Bottom-right, red: DISORGANIZED** — high anxiety + high avoidance, pulls toward and away simultaneously Axis labels around the grid orient the dimensions explicitly. **Use it for:** psychoeducation on attachment theory, especially with clients in relationship work or who are noticing patterns across multiple partners / parents / friends. The grid form lets you see why "secure" isn't binary — it's the corner of a continuous space, and clients can be closer or further from it depending on context. **The clinical move:** drop the grid, walk through what each quadrant looks like in adult relationships, and ask the client where they think they sit. Often they'll point to a different quadrant for different relationships — that's the diagnostic gold. Pairs naturally with the iceberg model ([trauma presets](/whiteboard/presets-trauma)) — attachment is what lives beneath the waterline of most relational behavior. ## Drama triangle (Karpman) An equilateral triangle with three roles, one at each corner: * **Persecutor** (top, red): *"It is your fault"* * **Rescuer** (bottom-left, green): *"Let me help"* * **Victim** (bottom-right, amber): *"Poor me"* Arrows between the corners show the cycle — Persecutor pushes Victim, Victim pulls Rescuer in, Rescuer turns Persecutor, and so on. **Use it for:** transactional-analysis-rooted work on relational patterns. The drama triangle is one of the most useful diagrams in relational therapy because the cycle is so recognizable once a client sees it — they spot the pattern in their family of origin, their partnerships, their workplace, often all in the same session. **The clinical move:** drop the preset, explain the three roles, and ask the client where they tend to start in different relationships. The pattern that often emerges: clients have a primary role they get pulled into ("I'm always the Rescuer") and a secondary one they switch to under stress. The clinical work that follows: noticing entry into the triangle, and choosing to step out — neither push, rescue, nor accept the victim position. That choice is itself a powerful intervention. ## Related articles All 29 worksheets. Iceberg model — what lives beneath relational patterns. Choice point — stepping out of the triangle.